The art of closure

It’s a beautiful thing, really. To be able to fall asleep easy; to not wallow in our own self pity just hours before we fall fast asleep.

Most of us make great efforts to reach closure. To find it. To discover happiness, freedom, and peace.

But what if we can’t– what if our ability to concentrate on progression is weak? What do we do?

We fight. We stand up for ourself, and we use what we were given at birth. Our voice is the most powerful instrument and we should never feel ashamed to speak up on something we don’t agree with. Especially when there’s feelings involved. We’re human, we have a right to feel.

Too many times we think of the best things to say, when it’s too late. But really, it’s never too late. As long as I’m breathing, it’s never too late.

I said what I had to say. I said exactly what was on my mind, every. single. night. I was fearful of rejection, lack of pity or understanding, and even just the thought of being perceived as a lonelyΒ person was enough to change my mind.

But I needed this. I needed the closure. I wasn’t capable of finding it on my own. Some nights I was able to convince myself I was fine, but other nights I punched my pillow and cried. I needed answers. I needed my voice to be heard.

I feel better now. The result was what I feared, but I’m better off knowing the truth rather than wallowing in my own pity, waiting for what could possibly never come or worse, allowing my mind to indulge in the idea of a perfect fantasy world.

I fall asleep much easier now, and it’s a beautiful thing.

27 thoughts on “The art of closure

  1. Lovely post. It mirrors our innermost desire as human beings to be aware, get reasons why and find closure. Sometimes we get it, sometimes we do not. In times that we don’t, we need to find the strength to go on. This may be one of the harder aspects of living everyday life. I enjoyed reading this!

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    1. Absolutely. I know closure doesn’t come easy. Especially when silence is involved. It’s hard. But I realized just because the other person is silent, doesn’t mean I have to be. It takes a lot of strength to find closure with ourselves. I’ve done it before, but for some reason I couldn’t fully move on unless I expressed one last blurb and in result, I found my closure. Thanks for taking the time to read, and don’t ever feel intimidated to let your voice be heard πŸ™‚

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  2. Thanks for the insight. I do admire people who just get into bed and sleep off immediately. I totally agree with what you said. It is never too late as long as I’m breathing.

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  3. I feel like closure is such an important thing, especially for people like me, who lay awake all night overthinking every little detail. I would much rather know something even if it’s going to hurt me than stay up wondering the ‘what ifs’. I love this post and I love how well we can relate to each other πŸ’™

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    1. Yes! Exactly. I agree. I’m better off knowing the truth rather than a perceived truth. I replay scenarios in my head all the time and inevitably I start to make my own truth. But it’s not real. That’s why we need closure from other people sometimes. Thanks for your comment! πŸ’™

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      1. Same here. One night I just said screw it, I’m doing this. And I said what I needed to say and in turn I got the truth. If something is on your mind, say it girl. What do you have to lose?

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