Online Dating, perhaps?

As we are all aware– most of our daily correspondences carry on throughout the use of technology. We are constantly posting updates on social media, instant messaging our friends, and skyping with our colleagues. We are so adept to using virtual technology for accomplishing our most basic tasks.

But I have to be honest. I have one task I have yet to accomplish: finding a mate.

It’s not exactly easy developing a relationship with someone when you don’t go out and do stuff. When I am not working, I am either at the gym, running errands, blogging, or sitting on the couch watching Netflix. Of course I hang out with friends, but my friends are all tied down and are not interested in the bar scene.

So, I’ve been thinking about Online Dating. I’m honestly frightened by the idea of it. Not because I’m afraid of being tricked by a bunco, but because I am afraid this will actually work out for me. Ironic, right?

See, I want a relationship. I believe I am ready and I think I can handle it. I’d love nothing more than to find someone in real life– someone I can establish a connection with in person for the first time. But…I’ve already mentioned how almost impossible it is for me to do that right now.

When I think about Online Dating, I think of it as “forcing” a relationship. Like, I am pushing it to happen; rather than meeting someone naturally and forming a friendship first.

I am so confused.

Please, share your thoughts and experiences with online dating. 

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19 thoughts on “Online Dating, perhaps?

  1. I think online dating is a great idea, especially if you don’t have time to go out. With online dating, people make it clearer about what they’re looking for, and it makes it easier to find someone who you share more in common with. Though meeting someone out is a more natural way, you don’t have to go through the awkwardness when you realise you don’t have much in common, or don’t like them. Whereas over the internet, you start off with just talking, and you build a relationship by getting to know the personality of the person first. Yes, you can choose someone based on their picture, but they also usually do an ‘about me’ which helps you choose someone you can relate to. So, even though online dating might be scary, the popularity of it means that hopefully there will be an array of different people you can connect with, and maybe have a relationship with. So I think go for it!

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  2. Online dating is not a bad method to find your mate. when it comes relationship, the majority of people thinks online dating is not serious and always meet wrong person, But you can not deny there are also a lot of person meet online and get married. The method how you meet is not important, the point is that you love each other and ready to spend the rest of life together.

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    1. Hey! Yes, yes, tons and tons of people are switching to online-dating to find a mate. It is most certainly the new dating age. You mentioned a majority of people think online dating is not serious…and well, I fall into that category. I have tried online dating a couple times…and I noticed the nature of our dates were casual even with the acknowledgment we were both looking for a relationship. Online dating isn’t for everyone! But for those who find love via internet…I think it’s wonderful 🙂 Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!

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  3. I refuse to do online dating. I did it for May years and even had some successful relationships come from websites or apps. I’ll share a post about it and why I decided to stop.

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    1. Hey Nina! I am going to check out your post right now! Thanks for reading. I am skeptical about online dating as well. I think it should be used as a last resort. But that is just my opinion. The world is different now, we use technology in ways that generations before us never even thought possible. It’s amazing how we can “find” true love through the internet. It works for some people. Thanks again for your insight! I agree with what you think.

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  4. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to try online dating, but please please please be careful! Some people out there are sketchy and aren’t who they seem to be! They pretend to be somebody they aren’t and then end up raping or even killing the girl. It’s a cruel world and I don’t want you to get hurt by any means! 💙

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  5. Yeah, I think there’s no harm in trying it out as long as you are smart about it.
    I’m finally gonna have a date tomorrow! Hopefully it definitely happens. He seems really nice. We’ve been texting pretty frequently. Met him on Bumble. We’ll see! Don’t know how it’ll go until I meet up with him. 😁

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  6. I married a guy I met online. It wasn’t the way I wanted to meet someone, but it worked out. My one piece of advice is to take it slow and listen to your gut.

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  7. I’m the same way. I have a weird work schedule and find it hard to meet people organically. I’ve had some success in forming attachments to people through online dating sites but have never actually met someone in person (almost did a few weeks ago! You can read it on my blog haha) I always find that when I give up on online things, someone tends to come along – either in a natural setting or just as I’m about to delete my accounts. Just gotta be open to it however it happens. I know a lot of success stories from online dating, but unfortunately a lot of failures too haha.

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    1. It is hard! I’ve had success in the past as well. I used tinder two times and both times I met both people. They were exactly who they said they were but it didn’t work out. We are just friends now. But that’s so true, someone new tends to come along every time we stop thinking or worrying about it. Lol. I did read your blog though. You said Fudge muffin. Lol! I remember. But thanks for sharing your experience!

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  8. I think meeting someone the organic way is nicer and even though you say you don’t go out much, you could still run into someone while running errands or at work or at the gym (unless you’re one of those people who sticks their headphones in so they’ll be left alone 😅)

    But in this technological age I can’t see the harm in online dating either. It makes things quite simple. You could just try it out and see if you like it.

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    1. I agree! Meeting someone the traditional way is my preference. But it’s not easy. Hopefully I run into someone while I’m doing something I love. Rather than doing something I feel forced to do…like online dating. I’m very open minded about it, though. I just don’t know if I’m ready to put myself out there (online) yet.
      Thanks for the feedback! I really appreciate it.

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